Feel GREAT Speaking – Part 2!
Feel GREAT Speaking – Part 2!
Rrrrrrr!!! Did you ever notice how some speakers come out on stage with a ROAR and others are just a bit “mousy”? If you want to feel GREAT speaking – you might want to aim for somewhere in the middle so that you are able to take the stage and just purr consistently like a big beautiful cat! Rrrrrrrrrrrr (go ahead you can do it – put your tongue to the roof of your mouth and start purring like a big ole kitty cat! Rrrrrrr!)
A purring kitty cat is very attractive and RELATE-able – which is exactly what you want to be when you hit that stage – someone that your audience can relate to who may be just a little further down the path then they are. You want to make a heart to heart connection with your audience and RELATE your information to either their pain or their passion and ideally to both. You want to RELATE your story in a way that positions you as someone both credible as well as approachable. Whenever you are given an opportunity to speak you are actually selling – whether it’s an idea, yourself, or a product or service. Selling through speaking is a way to help people to RELATE themselves to a possibility – to be able to see themselves in a new way as a result of what you are offering. To better RELATE to your audience it’s helpful to find the places where your story overlaps with theirs and to create in your talk parallels between where they are and where you were once upon a time. This is also known as “being in touch with your audience.”
REACH is the act of creating with your words, energy and actions a sacred space in the room or on the airwaves that holds and contains your audience during your presentation – this is one area where many speakers have a challenge – it’s often quite overwhelming for people to speak and just manage their own personal power and the energy that is coming through them when they are presenting. When you expand your REACH you are actually creating an energetic container that holds the audience and the best speakers are able to enthrall the audience. This is because they have cultivated a commanding presence and they extend the REACH of their presence to everyone in the audience. The more you are able to REACH people the more people your REACH will attract and then you will be able to serve your message into those hearts and minds. The interesting paradox about creating an expansive REACH is that it all centers on how much YOU you are willing to bring to the equation – you have to cultivate your own inner core, your own presence and you own solid center in order to really become a powerful center of influence.
RECOGNITION is another piece of feeling GREAT speaking – it’s important that you give RECOGNITION to your audience for their time, to your hosts (if you are a guest) and to yourself for having the courage and cojones to get up there and share your message. People are giving you their time and attention – it’s valuable – never forget that. Honoring your audience for that right from the start even if you don’t do it with words is really important. Take a moment before starting to speak to just silently recognize that these souls have given to you just by showing up – and remember to give it your all even if you only have a handful of people in your audience. RECOGNIZE that every opportunity to speak is a chance to hone and perfect your craft and to practice your timing, your material and bringing even more of your presence to the game. At the end of your talk remember to let yourself receive the RECOGNITION that people give you in the form of applause. Make sure you leave space and time in your presentation for that! It’s GREAT to be able to move people with your words – allow yourself to be moved with their response!